Do you give your children chores to do?
I have to admit I haven’t given my children as many responsibilities as I probably should have, given that they are getting older and are actually able to do a lot more for themselves these days. But on reflections, chores can massively help children develop a sense of responsibility and self worth, so I really must get started.
I think the general ethos should be that all family members are expected to help in keeping the home running efficiently. We all play a part in this and it really isn’t fair to leave it up to one or two people. Plus there are so many benefits from getting children involved in chores too which we have outlined below..
As well as easing the burden for one parent, getting the kids involved in chores can help create a sense of unity and family and is a great place for your child to learn about teamwork. Parents should take special care to handle the delegation of chores to children so they don’t become a source of frustration or create arguments.
How to get started with delegating chores?
Allow your child to have an active say in the delegation of chores. Give them choices. We all have household chores that we don’t like to do, but if it’s a chore the child enjoys doing then there’s less likelihood it will create a battle in the end. The child will most likely appreciate having the chance to be heard and having a choice.
It’s imperative that you set parameters early on for the successful completion of a chore. They may not perform up to snuff when they first start performing the chore, but show them where improvement is needed and praise them for a strong effort. Also make sure the child understands there will be repercussions if they only put forth a minimal effort.
What are the consequences
Ensure the child understands the need for the chore’s effective and efficient completion. Set consequences for substandard completion as a team. Make sure they see that if they don’t perform their chores, it affects the other members of the team. Spouses must work together and be a strong example for their children by completing their own chores each day. And don’t allow a child to undermine your authority by battling with you over a designated chore. Stand your ground and don’t give in, and emphasize the consequence and negative effect an uncompleted chore has on the family. And remember to reward them with something fun. Maybe it’s a photo booth rental Fort Worth? Or perhaps it is the option to choose a fantastic family days out?
And keep an open mind when a child wants to discuss their thoughts or express their opinions about chores. Make sure the conversation stays positive and on target.